Father's Day: What is the Best Advice Dad Ever Gave You?

Patch wants to hear your most memorable words of advice from your dad. Is "life isn't fair" one of those pieces of advice?

An unknown author once wrote, "Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad."

When I was young my father, who was a police sergeant, used to give one favorite piece of advice. He would ask the officers on his squad to have one simple goal for the day.

"Every day make one thing better than when you found it," he would tell them.

When I graduated from the police academy, my dad pinned my badge on my chest and whispered to me to the stage, "Every day make one thing better than when you found it." That piece of advice is something I still think about all of the time.

My husband often tells our kids that "life is not fair," which is also a good thing to learn in life. He does not tell the kids to pull his finger (for that I am so grateful), but he does make them brush their teeth at night and he hugs them when they need a daddy snuggle.

As a mother, I feel like Father's Day is sometimes not prioritized the way Mother's Day is every year. We tend to see a slew of advertisements for Mother's Day gifts and sales for weeks in advance, but Father's Day feels like is sandwiched in with the end-of-school hoopla and graduation celebrations.

The role of fathers has evolved dramatically over the years from when I was young and dads have now taken a more active part in the critical and dynamic realm of raising children.

Dads are on muted conference calls while also changing dirty diapers and schlepping kids to and from play dates. They are playing catch and reading stories at bedtime.

Father's Day is fast approaching. Watsonville Patch wants to hear the best advice your dad ever gave you. If you are a dad, what is your favorite piece of advice you give your kids? Send us your favorite pics with you and your dad.

Patch us your comments in the comments section below and give dad a shout out while you are there.

Happy Father's Day to all of those fantastic dads out there.

There are two Father's Day events in South County this weekend, both sponsored by the fatherhood support program, :

  • The on Saturday night at Seacliff Inn in Aptos.
  • The Sunday morning at PAPÁs, on West Lake Avenue in Watsonville.
Jennifer Squires June 14, 2012 at 08:27 PM
My dad gave advice via very long stories. I'd share, but it would take awhile. Maybe that's why I became a writer?
Cathy P. June 14, 2012 at 10:36 PM
My Dad was a storyteller also. He knew 10 different versions of the Native American story "Falling Rock." He told me things like "Pears (eating them) make you pretty," that chocolate milk came from chocolate cows, and the reason cows could stand on hillsides without tipping over was because two legs on one side were shorter than the other. And I believed him. Not so big on giving advice, Dad was the one who taught me to be an observer and to appreciate the the small things. He gave me my love of nature, the stars, the sea, and the forest. Dad instilled my passion for art, books, writing, learning, and education. He was also a great cook (both of my parents were). We lost him to lung cancer in 2006 but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of him. Happy Father's Day!
Las Paled June 17, 2012 at 02:53 PM
Being a Dad, and now an empty nester, I think the best gift that can be given to me this Fathers Day is the knowledge that my kids are healthy and that they are happy in their pursuits (which they all have shared with me!). I so related to this article with the advice of trying to make one thing better every day and the "Life is Not Fair" lesson. And I am a story teller. I always wanted my kids to come to their own conclusions. Helping them make their own mistakes to learn from in a safe environment gave me my grey hair though but I think they are wiser for that vs. always telling them what to or not to do. Thank you for posting this.


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